30 Aug

Living Together

(A) Are the couples, man and woman, living together openly (so people know) doing any sin? Particularly, if they are serious with and are loyal to each other and own and care for their children?

(B) What is marriage? Isn’t it declaring in front of at least two adults that the couple will from now on live together as husband and wife? And people know them as couples. Also own and care about their children.

(C) What is sin. When a man and a woman do the thing in hiding and act as if nothing happened in front of others. The children are disowned.

  The only thing missing in (A) is a specific declaration, and the witnesses, as compared to (B). But in (A) the intention is declared by action and not words.

  (C) lacks both the declaration and the witnesses. And also lacks responsibility of the consequences.

Your comments please

(The above is only my observation and curiosity, and do not form my opinion. I will give my own opinion later) 


Posted by on August 30, 2011 in LIFE'S GREAT MOMENTS


6 responses to “MAN AND WOMAN

  1. Rafiullah Mian

    September 5, 2011 at 11:12 pm

    Wisely sad. Ma’ashray ki bunyad isi rishtay par hoti he.

    • shakilakhtar

      September 6, 2011 at 8:45 am

      shukria bhai meri baat samjhne ka. mujhe dar tha ke log mujhe paagal he na samajh len.

  2. Dr Yousuf H. Qureshi

    September 13, 2011 at 7:12 pm

    No, not really,

    It’s a “Scientific comment / analysis’. people, who read this blog should be well matured and see the things in a non judgemental way with out putting on “Spectacles” of Islam. Most of the times Scientific discussions get draped under fundamentalism and, in my opinion that is bad and not healthy for any discussion.

    • shakilakhtar

      September 13, 2011 at 8:45 pm

      A man meets a woman in a jungle. He says that I am making you my wife. she said o.k. Soon afterwards another man arrives, he was told by the first man that he is making that woman his wife. After a while another bloke turns up and he too, like te other man, was told by the first that he was making the woman his wife. At which stage the woman becomes his wife? This question was asked in a M.A. Islamiat paper in Karachi Uni. so I was told. The answer was that at the end when there were two witnesses.
      Now you are a mature person. and your comments have weight. I also should be pardoned for thinking at 65+ to have attained some maturity. Any way my blog is named DhuaN jo dil aur jaN se uth raha hai. Dil ki baateN dil men rakhne se kya faidah.

  3. Tanmay Satapathy

    May 10, 2012 at 6:46 pm

    The strength of a relation is tested during the low times. In any relation low times come at a later stage when the initial physical attraction fades away. That period is the make-or-break time for every relation.

    The main difference in both (A) and (B) is that in (B) society comes into play if things goes wrong.

    (C) is not advisable at any circumstances. It would lead to social instability.

    • shakilakhtar

      May 10, 2012 at 8:29 pm

      Thanks Tamay Ji for your thoughts. Now a days even in relatively conservative societies the ‘A’ method is practiced evidently, if not widely. In my opinion (Now I am writing as promised above) ‘A’ is the worst option. There they are not only sinning but also they are shameless and audacious. But again in many cases those who live openly together do not have the same values and sensitivities that we have and it will be unfair to judge them according to our meter. The plus thing with them is that they are bold and honest and don’t care about what others think. But ‘C’ people are cheat and callous. It is difficult to give a verdict but of course ‘B’ is the most preferable.


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